Happy Valentine’s Day if you celebrate, happy hump day, if you don’t!
Firstly, how ironic is it that Valentine’s Day falls on a hump day when statistically, only one in five couples will actually knock some boots tonight or more interestingly still, approximately 64% of people prefer to indulge in a nice dessert as a Valentine’s Day treat instead of sex?!
Anyway, the point of this post is not about getting your end away or indulging in wine, chocolates and good food all in the name of love, but more about looking beyond others showing you love and being more in love with yourself!
As corny as it sounds, that old saying; how can anyone love you if you don’t love yourself, still holds true – in fact it always has!
Loving yourself is crucial…
Loving yourself is everything…
Loving yourself is the first step to being happy and content regardless of what else is happening around you.
So if love by definition is; an intense feeling of deep affection, what is self-love?
Self-love is a combination of things…
Self-love is literally loving yourself as per the definition of love as well as being self-aware, accepting yourself, being kind to yourself and having the utmost respect for yourself.
Most people find it hard to love themselves and often find they project their love on to others and in turn expect respect, kindness and acceptance in return.
This kind of payback is not guaranteed, but imagine if you loved yourself first, another would find it hard NOT to have those feelings towards you too or at least respect the fact that you feel that way about yourself.
Love and admiration is catching after all.
So how do you learn to love yourself?
This is key.
Smiling makes even the darkest of hearts feel good, so do more of that. In fact, always focus on doing things that make you feel good.
Praise yourself often and try not to be too harsh and critical of yourself.
Allow yourself time to relax and get pampered, appreciate your body and how you look. Focus on the body parts you love the best and embrace the rest.
Chase your dreams and forgive yourself if you come off track.
Avoid negative people and situations, think positive and speak positivity into your life, daily.
Amazingly, when you love yourself, the world is such a brighter place, you have more confidence, you care less about what others think and you enjoy each waking moment.
Such a fantastic space to be in, wouldn’t you agree?
So this Valentine’s Day (and beyond), whether you are in a relationship, dating or are single, make self-love your main priority and see how much of a difference it makes in your life.